I am concerned that I might say/do the wrong thing
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” ― Maya Angelou
Often what holds someone back from expressing concern about the person the mental health of another is the fear of saying the wrong thing. This fear is understandable however there is no one right way to express concern. Equally, words are only part of our expression. There may be other ways in which you can show-up and demonstrate your care.
It could be beneficial to rehearse how you might express your concern. It could be helpful also to remember key components of empathy and active listening.
The HSE have compiled short accessible guidance on what to do when you are worried about someone else’s mental health.
Often, what our friend/peer needs most is someone who will listen to them without judgement. Empathetic, active listening is a skill which you can offer to your friend during their time of need. Often, you don’t need to worry about saying the wrong thing as it is your listening ear which is needed more than your words.
The HSE provides guidelines on active listening skills which you might find helpful to be guided by:
The purpose of this website is to provide information and signposting to further support services.
If you feel unclear on where best to turn, please review the content tabs. You might wish to consult with your own GP/professional support provider who could advise you further.
If you are concerned, you might encourage your friend/peer to book an initial appointment with Student Health or with Student Counselling.
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